tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5827743438706478479.post129333356643199612..comments2024-03-20T07:55:33.231+00:00Comments on Traveling with Autism: I can see clearly now....Lisamareehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18445509438246694219noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5827743438706478479.post-20695675026526844662008-07-23T18:53:00.000+01:002008-07-23T18:53:00.000+01:00Hi Hammie, your latest and greatest but then again...Hi Hammie, your latest and greatest but then again your latest is always your greatest!!<BR/>I had to laugh about the eyes though as I am probably at the stage you were at. Was looking through Paris Metro maps and found I could no longer read them- shock, horror. Optician said at last visit that I would be back to her sooner rather than later. Looks like she was correct.<BR/>Nick hit the nail on the head with his comments about how applicable your experience is when it comes to other children as well.<BR/>Sorry to read about your *%^!# neighbours. Hope they have cleaned up their act.<BR/>rm9Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5827743438706478479.post-92137833081605451622008-07-23T17:54:00.000+01:002008-07-23T17:54:00.000+01:00That's so funny Seeker! Because in my former life ...That's so funny Seeker! Because in my former life of paid work, I ALWAYS taught my staff to fish! I always made sure there was transparency in my work so that others could follow what I was up to easily. <BR/>And yet here I am as a mother doing the opposite.<BR/>xxLisamareehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18445509438246694219noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5827743438706478479.post-338014094774506952008-07-23T16:24:00.000+01:002008-07-23T16:24:00.000+01:00Learned Dependence... what a great issue to talk a...Learned Dependence... what a great issue to talk about, and you've great insights.<BR/>That's true, sometimes we think we're helping doing things, but we are just making people depend on us.<BR/>I'm doing it all the time at my office. I think it makes me feel needed, but I also think about that dependence.<BR/><BR/>As have been said "teach to fish, don't give the fish"<BR/><BR/>Take care dear.<BR/>xoxoSeekerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04128993876847534647noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5827743438706478479.post-73443218768642589222008-07-22T22:02:00.000+01:002008-07-22T22:02:00.000+01:00Cybil, Enc and Tazz; I guess it takes the stranges...Cybil, Enc and Tazz; I guess it takes the strangest encounters to get us thinking about life; such as the Optometrist. But really it is always there in front of us. I just think like the iceberg the reasons for our kids behaviour is below the surface while we are on the Titanic trying to work out where all this cold water is coming from.<BR/>xx<BR/>xxLisamareehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18445509438246694219noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5827743438706478479.post-69792410171704263762008-07-21T19:27:00.000+01:002008-07-21T19:27:00.000+01:00This one really hit home with me!! Button is well...This one really hit home with me!! Button is well able do alot of things for himself, but it's sooooooo much easier, quicker and tidier if I do them for him! I'm really trying hard to take a step back, and let him fgure things out. I knew we had a problem when he was on the toilet, doing his business and said "it's hard work. Mommy help"!! Much as I love him I do have my limits!! Teaching him independence is surely the best gift I can give him, along with the assurance that I'll be following behind wiping up the spilt juice and cornflakes!!<BR/>TazzyAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5827743438706478479.post-7839475132934562492008-07-21T15:57:00.000+01:002008-07-21T15:57:00.000+01:00Ah, Learned Dependence. One of the most interestin...Ah, Learned Dependence. One of the most interesting and excellent topics of all time, especially for me, a lover of control. I have to fight the urge to do everything here at home. <BR/><BR/>I'm so glad you discussed it. All the examples you gave really opened my eyes to the many different ways we can go in a new direction.<BR/><BR/>I feel like I learn so much when I read your blog. I also know I sound like a broken record when I say this each and every time.<BR/><BR/>xx<BR/><BR/>p.s.: I'm sorry your bag hasn't come back to you.Elizabethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03406942482508439839noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5827743438706478479.post-51852551519264730472008-07-21T12:31:00.000+01:002008-07-21T12:31:00.000+01:00Hammie, how do you find the time to think so insig...Hammie, how do you find the time to think so insightfully? This post was a reminder to myself about my own children, what am I thinking by not letting them do things themselves?! I'm glad your children are in a good school, it makes such a difference.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5827743438706478479.post-71794713599652949592008-07-21T11:03:00.000+01:002008-07-21T11:03:00.000+01:00thanks Mammy, Sis, Nick, Sesame, Ali and Track.Mam...thanks Mammy, Sis, Nick, Sesame, Ali and Track.<BR/>Mammy: my resolve was tested yesterday morning when I came downstairs to a cheerio and milk trail from the counter to the table. A litre of milk and half a box does not fit in one small bowl, apparently. I shut up and Mopped! (milky mop now lives in garden)<BR/>Sis< thankyou. Half the problem is loving them too much. As my Aunt Grace, God rest her , used to say "I've made a rod for my own back" Thanks again for the encouragement folks. xxLisamareehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18445509438246694219noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5827743438706478479.post-40993321241978674162008-07-21T08:43:00.000+01:002008-07-21T08:43:00.000+01:00Your posts are always fantastic to read, keep up y...Your posts are always fantastic to read, keep up your fantastic job Hammie :)Style On Trackhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01972727565571750957noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5827743438706478479.post-1106528246315850982008-07-20T13:22:00.000+01:002008-07-20T13:22:00.000+01:00The intensity may be notched up a few degrees when...The intensity may be notched up a few degrees when autism plays its part, but the core of what you're saying here is excellent advice for anyone who's a parent with young kids. We all slide into the trap of 'If you want it done properly...'<BR/><BR/>Good post, Hambo. You be talking heap plenty sense.Nick McGivneyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03603579300515543458noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5827743438706478479.post-81415454955481938862008-07-20T13:05:00.000+01:002008-07-20T13:05:00.000+01:00Guilty on lots of counts here. I didn't reali...Guilty on lots of counts here. I didn't realise I was doing so much for all my kids until the psychologist came to the house armed with his file full of questions for me to answer about Babs. <BR/>Q. Can he drink from a cup? <BR/>A. Yes. <BR/>Q. Without making a mess? <BR/>A. Yes. <BR/>Q. Does he use a fork or a spoon? A. Both. <BR/>Q. Can he do up a zipper? <BR/>A. Don't know he's never had to. Q. What about buttons? <BR/> Same answer. You get my drift.<BR/><BR/>That was an eye opener for me. I didn't realise that by me dressing all of my kids so we can get out the door on time I was hindering not helping them. I do everything for them and then when I ask or expect them to do something themselves I give out because they can't.<BR/><BR/>My eldest is 7 and come school swimming day when the mommies have to go in to help dry the little ones off, she stands there waiting for me to dry her when I have finished her little sister, making no attempt to even try herself. <BR/><BR/>I have improved a bit though. Babs is perfectly able to dress himself. He struggles with socks and getting top on his head but who doesn't? I now leave my girls to dry themselves after their shower and although she gives out the eldest has been forced to do something for herself. (It would be embarrassing for her next year if I was seen to be drying her after swimming).<BR/><BR/>On the other hand, I tried to never give in to Babs when he grabbed my hand and put it on the fridge door. I knew he wanted a drink but until he asked for "drink juice PLEASE mammy" he didn't get one. Everytime he asked he got one. Now I don't know if he is a very thirsty boy or if it's just a habit. But it's hard to refuse anything once he has asked..that's another days work.<BR/><BR/>Hope you & Mr Hammie had a good night out on Friday and here's to many more.Sesamehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07936393304802131213noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5827743438706478479.post-54331983521377546072008-07-20T03:25:00.000+01:002008-07-20T03:25:00.000+01:00I knew what Bidgeo Pay was immediately!I am fallin...I knew what Bidgeo Pay was immediately!<BR/><BR/>I am falling in love with your family.Sister Wolfhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13105400876362635324noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5827743438706478479.post-28056590940242886512008-07-20T02:29:00.000+01:002008-07-20T02:29:00.000+01:00BTW I love the artistic and fitting photo, very cl...BTW I love the artistic and fitting photo, very clever.Gracie:)https://www.blogger.com/profile/02696712912581333638noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5827743438706478479.post-18208400065040667762008-07-20T01:45:00.000+01:002008-07-20T01:45:00.000+01:00Hiya Delighted you brought this up as I am working...Hiya <BR/><BR/>Delighted you brought this up as I am working on a programme to stop ME doing for him what he can do for himself and it is completely, totally and fully my own issue. He's not helpless, stupid or incapable by any means, in fact I wish I possesed his sceeming skills and avoidance acrobats.<BR/><BR/>So ive got to kick myself in the ass and wake up.<BR/>Oddly enough I push people to spill beans on him, I want to know every detail of avoidance behavior etc. so I can go work out how to reduce and fade it out.<BR/><BR/>Now I have to work out what im facilitating to reduce and fade out in myself. <BR/>Oh Maan im gonna be up half the night.....<BR/><BR/>Hammie it sounds like Boo and Bratty are doing fantasticly well. Good on you and them and long may it last :)<BR/><BR/>MammyGracie:)https://www.blogger.com/profile/02696712912581333638noreply@blogger.com